Call it upbringing. Call it genes. Call it hormones. It makes no difference. The fact remains that most guys need to dominate in a relationship. The way they see it, they’re bigger than girls, they’re stronger than girls, they make more cash than girls–so why shouldn’t they be allowed to dominate girls? Their need to dominate begins in the one place where ladies are most vulnerable: in the bedroom.

You’re sucking your guy’s stiffy. He lies on his back, his body relaxed, his moans growing louder with each stroke of your hand, with every lick of your tongue. He groans out your name. You feel completely in control. You feel empowered. You feel dominant. Guess what? He feels exactly the same way. He feels dominant too. No matter how loudly you make him moan, or groan, or scream; no matter how violently you make his body tremble; no matter how many dorky expressions you put on his face, a guy feels dominant while getting a BJ. What’s his logic? Simple. You do all the dirty work. And a BJ is dirty work. Let’s not forget, he pees out of that thing. He gets all sweaty down there. He feels dominant because you’re inserting his grimy, stinky, nasty, scrap of meat into your mouth.

Giving a BJ symbolizes that you’ll do anything for him. You’ll make any sacrifice, break through any barrier to please him. He’s your king. Second, you’re the one providing the service. He’s the customer. You’re the obedient McDonald’s cashier doing your best to please him. While you’re on your knees bobbing away, what’s he doing? Nothing. He’s sitting pretty getting a BJ like the king that he thinks he is. Actually guys do kind of exert themselves while getting a BJ. But the few actions they perform merely confirm just how much a guy feels dominant while receiving a BJ. While blowing your guy, how often have you felt his hand or hands rest on the crown of your head? Could there be a more obvious sign of dominance? Who ordinarily has to put up with a hand or two on their noggins? Kids, that who. And many a guy will go beyond just placing his hands on your head. Since he feels dominant, he’ll pull you in closer and closer, eventually forcing you to take his stiffy deeper into your mouth. Who cares about your gag reflex, right?

One would think that guys would feel submissive while going down on a girl, particularly since they’re serving her. Sorry, but wrong. Guys feel dominant both when you ladies are going down on them and when they’re going down on you. While going down on your coochies, they feel dominant for the same reasons you feel dominant while blowing them. You’re putty in their hands, a slave to their tongues. They’re in command of your orgasms. Yes, they’re aware that you don’t need their tongues. You’re fully capable of fingering your coochies. But they know, or at least they’re pretty sure, that your fingers don’t compare to their tongues. One would think that they might feel just a tad submissive since they’re doing all the dirty work; after all, coochies aren’t just about urine. They’re about gooey vaginal fluids, fishy odors, and then there’s that whole blood matter. It doesn’t matter to guys. Most guys do not see coochies as dirty. They love coochies. And they love going down on coochies. They’ve been dreaming about coochies since puberty. Guys are desperate to see coochies, sniff coochies, taste coochies, suck coochies. They’d borrow your coochies for the weekend if they could. Besides, those guys who are intimidated by your coochies quickly change their minds once their testosterone starts flowing. As for those guys who are never into going down on your coochies. They’re gay.

What about the cowgirl position?  Surely, guys must feel submissive when a girl is in the cowgirl position. Surely guys do feel dominated when they’re the one on the bottom. No ma’am. The way guys sees it, not only are cowgirls doing all the work when on top during sex, but they’re putting on a show as well. While a gal is thrusting and grinding in the cowgirl position, he can lie back and visually feast on her tits bouncing up and down. He gets to feel the grind of her wet coochie all the while gawking at her curvaceous hips, and groping her titties. He’s in paradise. When a girl’s in the cowgirl position, she might as well place a crown on her man’s head and call him her daddy.

Who do guys most love to dominate? Virgins, of course. You’ve seen it a number of times in film. A guy is about to bang a girl. Before penetration, the girl whispers something like, “Go slow. This is my first time.”  The guy hesitates, rises, and then begins to dress. He doesn’t want her first time to be just a fling. What bullshit!  Very few guys would walk away from the chance to devirginize a girl. Guys want to devirginize girls. The urge to bang, alone, is enough to force most guys to devirginize a girl. A desire to dominate compels the remaining holdouts. Whether it’s a one-night stand screw, or a wedding night lovemaking, devirginizing a girl endows a guy with a tremendous sense of dominance. When devirginizing a girl, a guy conquers a part of her being that no man can ever lay claim to. A woman may be a hoochie who has slept with hundreds of guys, but only one of them test drove her when she was brand new. All the rest had to make do with a used vehicle. They had to pick at the first hero’s leftovers. When a guy devirginizes a girl, he essentially becomes the first person to set a flag on Mt. Everest. He can rest easy knowing that if any future explorers reach her summit, they’ll find his flag already planted there. They’ll have to tolerate second place. When a guy devirginizes a girl, he knows that 50 years from now, his victim may have forgotten many of her lovers, but she’ll never forget him. He dominates a piece of her history, a portion of her self-identity. What guy could resist such a status in a woman’s heart?

When do guys feel submissive during sex? NEVER. Guys never feel submissive during sex, no matter what the position, no matter what the act. For guys, it’s not a matter of whether they feel dominant during sex. It’s a matter of how dominant.

Okay, okay, there is one sexual scenario in which guys feel submissive during sex, one scenario in which he feels like a little schoolgirl on her way to the principal’s office. Want to know what makes guys feel submissive during sex, Girls? Doggy style, with one small variation. You’re the one behind him. You guessed it. Good ol’ fashioned strap-on sex. Nothing shrinks a guy’s balls faster than the thought of getting his ass rammed by an eight-inch plastic dick. Want proof? Ask. Ask your guy if you could wear a strap-on. Go ahead. Go tell your guy that you want to wear a strap-on penis tonight. Tell him that you want to strap on that big fellow, strip him down, set him on all fours, spread a glob of Vaseline on his hairy ass, and pound him until he’s squealing like a newborn pig. Go ahead, ask him. And be prepared for two words out of his mouth, “Fuck you!”